Everybody cares
How good are you at getting people to perceive you how you want them too?
I hear, or read, people proclaim all the time, "and I don't care what anybody thinks about it!" Or some variation of the statement. Well if you really didn't care, you wouldn't have to state that, would you? The truth would be self-evident.
No one thinks that they are truly ordinary, and on that point everyone is right.
No one wants to be perceived as week or needy.
Every woman, no matter how "rock n' roll," wants to be beautiful. Period.
Every woman enjoys a tasteful compliment from a good person.
I do believe that we are all hiding something.
I believe that no matter how old or young, how confident or timid, how lovely or plain, how self-enchanted or insecure we (women) are, we desperately want to be discovered. We want someone to dig deep, to draw out our secrets like Solomon's well. We want to be pursued in the same way in which we are exhorted to pursue wisdom in the Proverbs. Just switch the word "wisdom" for "a woman's heart," and you'll have a pretty good idea of how you should seek to know us. I cannot speak for men. :-)
I am aware that the sentences above are not perfectly worded and do not completely convey the meaning I intend. My need to include this statement indicates my insecurity.
When we see a very lovely woman full of grace and charm and sophistication surrounded with praise and admiration, we are just a little bit jealous- no matter how enviable our own positions are.
Obviously the statements I am making reflect severely on myself, but I really do think that I speak for many, even most, women (some of whom would probably rather I shut up and keep our secrets to myself).
I was going to state somewhere in here that I have lately felt a deep drawing to become more vulnerable again. I do not like being vulnerable, but it seems as though I am miserable when my heart is kept inside.
Blessings,
Shannon
I hear, or read, people proclaim all the time, "and I don't care what anybody thinks about it!" Or some variation of the statement. Well if you really didn't care, you wouldn't have to state that, would you? The truth would be self-evident.
No one thinks that they are truly ordinary, and on that point everyone is right.
No one wants to be perceived as week or needy.
Every woman, no matter how "rock n' roll," wants to be beautiful. Period.
Every woman enjoys a tasteful compliment from a good person.
I do believe that we are all hiding something.
I believe that no matter how old or young, how confident or timid, how lovely or plain, how self-enchanted or insecure we (women) are, we desperately want to be discovered. We want someone to dig deep, to draw out our secrets like Solomon's well. We want to be pursued in the same way in which we are exhorted to pursue wisdom in the Proverbs. Just switch the word "wisdom" for "a woman's heart," and you'll have a pretty good idea of how you should seek to know us. I cannot speak for men. :-)
I am aware that the sentences above are not perfectly worded and do not completely convey the meaning I intend. My need to include this statement indicates my insecurity.
When we see a very lovely woman full of grace and charm and sophistication surrounded with praise and admiration, we are just a little bit jealous- no matter how enviable our own positions are.
Obviously the statements I am making reflect severely on myself, but I really do think that I speak for many, even most, women (some of whom would probably rather I shut up and keep our secrets to myself).
I was going to state somewhere in here that I have lately felt a deep drawing to become more vulnerable again. I do not like being vulnerable, but it seems as though I am miserable when my heart is kept inside.
Blessings,
Shannon
posted by Shannon Jessup | 9:49 PM
2 Comments:
Thanks for sharing your thoughs with me - I'm honored.
Perception is often, unfortunately, based on a single occurrance and is usually very hard to change. So often it has nothing to do with reality - the definition is: a mental image or concept.
Sometimes I'm curious about others' perceptions of me, then I know myself well enough to know that the knowledge wouldn't be very helpful to me - if is was too flattering, I would discount it and if it was unflattering I wouldn't want to hear it.
The important thing is our perception of ourselves assuming, of course, we have a good grasp on reality.
Good post Shannon, and Good call Grandma :)
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